SUNDAY 9TH JULY 2017
TOPIC: CARING VERSUS CONTROLLING
TEXT: PROVERBS 2:6 “For the LORD giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding……”
What does it mean to care? It is simply a burdened or disquieted state of mind- full of anxiety, concerns, tension, stress, fear, alarm etc .On the other hand, controlling connotes power, domination, to direct, regulate, supervise etc. How do we apply either of these words to people especially couples, workmates, friends of like minds, even brothers and sisters and children as well? One can do many things for a person and such could be viewed as either of these two words above. For example couples could see some actions as helpful or control. Trying to manage and direct the other individual in matters that are extremely their business. One could even think one’s way is better so we impose it.
Here are some of the challenges people face mostly couples and how we can possibly change our responses: Old behavior: answering questions directed at someone/ mate. New behavior: being quiet while the other/ spouse replies – and learning something from their response. Old behavior: giving unsolicited advice. New behavior: listening, trusting people/ mate to find his/her own solution as well, and supporting that discovery. Old behavior: explaining someone/ partner’s point of view for them. New behaviour: waiting to hear their viewpoint and encouraging it if it is according to God’s will. Old behavior: making financial decisions without consulting your mate. New behavior: presenting investment opportunities and talking them over together. People / couples feel embarrassed, judged, put down, and angry when people/ spouses step in and answer, or make decisions without asking them. Everyone needs help but crashing people/ mates boundaries and manipulating the outcome is something else. When you’re anxious or uncertain about when to step in and when to step aside, please pray for guidance.’
MEDITATION: 2 Cor 3:5
Josh 10-11, Ps. 144, Jer. 5, Matt. 19